Sunday, July 22, 2007

i'm still here!

it's been a while since i last blogged. since then, i got married, moved to california, started my residency, and am learning to live in oakland without running into trouble. ; ) i'm still waiting for my hubby to move down from washington so that we can live happily ever after. i have all my wedding pics but y'all have to wait. here's a teaser nonpro pic for you:


Tuesday, May 29, 2007

flower girl baskets, programs, and my BM gifts

Sunday, May 27, 2007

my bridal shower


My bridal shower was over a month ago and I finally have pictures. It was held at my auntie's backyard and it was a lot of fun. This shower was supposed to be a surprise but, oh well, my grandma, my FI, and my mom spoiled it. Many guests came up to me and asked me if I was surprised. It was hard to fake it. My FI even had to remind me not to get too dressed up before the party as to not hurt anyone's feelings on the surprise.

I was a little sad that my four other bridesmaids and my girlfriends on the mainland weren't there but it turns out they're going to throw me a pseudo-bridal shower when they get here. Yay, another party!

Of course, we had tons of food. It included delicious food provided by Tanioka's, whom I'm considering for catering for my rehearsal dinner.

And a lot of games! There was a Guess-how-old-Eileen-is-in-this-picture game, a wrapping-paper-wedding-dress game, and how-well-do-you-know-Eileen game. Some people had to leave by the time I opened the presents and even more had to leave right before I cut the cake. There was about 50 - 60 people there was all the judging and picking out the winners took a while. While so many people? Maybe a third were men who drove their wives to the party and opted to stay. It wasn't meant to be a coed party but it just turned out to be one. My FI and my dad were there to watch me open my gifts which happened to be 75% lingerie! Much mahalos to my two girlfriends who tried to start a conversation with my dad to make the whole situation less awkward. I mean, how awkward, can you get with your FI sitting next to you while your mom is taking my pictures and your dad is in back of her?! Ay ya yay. Good times!

Wednesday, May 23, 2007

cake in my face...yes, it's another vent

Last week, I got cake quotes from my reception venue. Here are direct cut and pastes from my catering manager:

5 tier – Round with Fondant cake = $950.00 + + (this is with only one tier of real cake – and the remaining tiers to be Styrofoam"

With 300 Guest – Butter Cream Frosting & White Cake - 3 tiers stacked- $800.00 and we will need to do a sheet cake to accommodate 300 guest = $250.00

Can I just say this is a RIP-OFF?!!! Who in their right mind would pay close to a thousand dollars for a styrofoam cake? And not to mention my hotel pastry chef doesn't even offer cake tastings. Can this cake talk to me? Or better yet - make me lose 10 lbs? I thought including fake layers would make a cake cheaper. Well, it wasn't long after I received these quotes that I started looking for other cake vendors. Unfortunately, many cake bakers are already booked for my wedding weekend. I had to keep saying,"Yes, ma'am. It's for June. Of this year."

Well, today was the start of my cake search and it went off to a rocky start. This morning was my first cake tasting. It was scheduled for 10 AM so I left promptly at 9 AM from Ewa (approximately 30 miles from Honolulu). I forgot to ask the baker what the bakery address was when I booked the appointment but I figured I could look it up on the web. When I tried to look it up, there was no address on the cake vendor's website. The Yellow Pages, both online and hardcopy, had the same address and corresponded with the telephone number I called so I figured I had the right address. I reached my destination at about 9:40. However, there was a realty sign in the window indicating that the tenant had moved out. The place looked empty through the window. I went into a store in the same building for some help. The salesperson there said someone else not too long ago came in looking for this bakery but she said they moved out and never gave a forwarding address.

I called the bakery several times and left a message noting who I was, the appointment time for the cake tasting, and that I wanted to get correct and new address. The voice-mail stated that the bakery was not open until 10 but I called and called anyway.

With no one picking u p the phone, even after 10 AM, and not knowing what to do, I went to the Wedding Cafe in Manoa to see if I could find the address there (I also called a couple of girlfriends getting married but no luck there). I got there at about 10:20 and asked the Wedding Cafe owner where it was. He gave me directions and I finally arrived at the cake baker at about 10:30.

As I entered through the door, I introduced myself to a staffperson who appeared to be cleaning up and just tidying up the place. He didn't appear to be the baker but I told him what happened to me and apologized for being late to my cake tasting. He didn't seem to be sympathetic to my story (just gave a blank stare) and then went to the back to tell someone that I had arrived. He came out to tell me have a seat and gave me a couple of wedding cake albums to peruse through.

Ten minutes later, a woman comes out one of the doors (from her office?), sees me but does not acknowledge me and goes into another door (the kitchen maybe?). I wonder if she's the baker that I talked to over the phone while scheduling the tasting although I had imagined her to be much more friendlier-looking. Then I wait for another five minutes until the same woman comes out and asks me how she can help me. I tell her I'm there for a cake tasting. She looks at me with a disgruntled and bothered look. I could tell the tension was escalating and then I just apologized (even though I knew it wasn't entirely my fault ) for being late and told her how I went to the old address and how I tried to find out how to get there. She curtly told me I went to the wrong website and that the new one should have the address. I asked her if I would be meeting the baker. She told me she's her business partner and would be working with her today, not the baker I talked to over the phone. I never had a chance to tell her that I called several times but no one answered the phone. I never got to tell her that I went to the Wedding Cafe to find out where they were located. She asked me what I wanted in a cake, gave me a quote, and asked me what flavors I wanted. Then she went back to the kitchen for the cake. About 15 minutes later, I was tired of waiting any longer. I couldn't believe she was so curt to me when I felt they could have done a better job in their advertising noting the move and telling me over the phone their location when I called to book the tasting. They could have also answered the phone once they opened and returned my call. I told the staffperson that I couldn't wait any longer and I just walked out. I wasted my time and theirs.

I'm finally home and I googled this cake vendor's name. It turns out the old website is shown as the first two links and the third website is the new one.

This cake vendor had rave reviews in the past which is why I wanted to book with them in the first place. However, I was very disappointed with their customer service.

I have another cake tasting tomorrow and hopefully it'll turn out better than the one today.

I'm on the fence on emailing this vendor and letting them know about my experience so that they can at least fix their websites and change their addresses so that future brides won't go through the same ordeal I did. I just have a sour taste in my mouth about the whole thing and, what's even worse is that I didn't even have any cake.

Monday, May 21, 2007

Introducing Mister and Doctor?

I graduated from medical school over Mother's Day weekend. Yay!



Let the lei'ing madness begin.
Me and my family after convocation.

Me and my honey at the Ihilani lobby after our Ushio-Tei dinner (which was dee-licious and the service was awesome).

Commencement

I can't believe I'm done with medical school. Congratulations to all of this year's graduates!

Ever since then, I've been working on wedding stuff full-time. One of the things I keep thinking about is how the MC or priest will introduce us because I've decided to not change my name. It's kind of sad to not be introduced as Mr. and Mrs. I guess they'll just have to use our first names only.

Have you been to weddings where the woman doesn't change her name? How was the couple introduced?

Thursday, May 17, 2007

Dadzilla

Yesterday, when I was having lunch with my Dad, he asked me about how early my reception venue needs the total guest count by. Then he asked me if I received all my RSVPs back yet. Of course, 9 days after RSVP deadline, I don't have them all back yet. Then he went off! He scornfully said, "Gosh, some people. No respect! They don't deserve to come." Whoa. Then I explained that my Mom sent some invites late. And in fact, most of her coworkers are the ones to blame for delinquent RSVPs. As one who has committed that sin before, I am more forgiving. I'm just glad I had a somewhat early RSVP deadline. But you better watch out you, late RSVP-ers! My dad gets the mail and he sees the names on the postcard. I'm just warning you in case you get stink eye in the receiving line. Haha.

rules for arguing fairly

Ok, I haven't put up the rests of my posts from my crazy wedding week. Sorry! Here's a quickie but goodie blog on something I learned from my engagement retreat (review to come soon - I promise!):

Rules for Arguing Fairly
1. No name calling.
This includes using affectionate terms sarcastically.
2. No third parties.
The argument is just between the two of you.
3. No past history.
If it's already settled don't bring it up again. You can use the 48 hour rule.
4. Stick to the subject.
Identify the porblem. Don't go on to other issues.
5. No cheap shots.
Don't use the other's weakness to gain advantage. You may win the arguemnt, but injure the relationship. No hitting below the belt!
6. Don't go to bed angry.
Finish the argument or call a truce and agree on a time to continue.
7. Maintain a sense of humor.
Don't take yourselves too seriously. Laughter is the best medicine!
8. Hold Hands.
This is difficult beacuse it requires a "decision to love." This helps to keep your focus where it belongs, on the person who means more to you than anyone in the world.